How to foster Healthy Communication with your child

Parents take the time to:

Look at a child at their eye level - Don’t bend over to talk to a child. Do bend from your knees and stoop down, so your face and body are at the same level as the child.

     Why?

     This lets a child know that what they are saying is important to you.

     It helps you concentrate on what a child is saying.

     It allows you to view a child’s facial expression.

Validate your child’s feelings - If a child says ““Timmy” made me mad because he pushed me.” then:

     Do ask your child:

     Why they feel that way and let them tell about the event. Let your child express themselves, including feelings of anger or hurt feelings.

     How they feel about a situation without imposing your opinion. You might be surprised by the response. If a child says “Timmy pushed me,” as a parent you might think “Timmy hurt my child” or even suggest to your child, “that must have really hurt your feelings!”..but resist the impulse!!

It might end up that a child responds positively: “It made me feel good because myfriends took up for me,” or “It made me feel good because “Timmy” jokes around with kids he likes.”

"Too often we underestimate the power of...a listening ear...or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around." – Leo Buscaglia