Top Ten Tips - Post Divorce Survival Guide a.k.a. How to Create the Life You've Imagined!
Divorce is a significant milestone in a person’s life and that is no doubt an understatement. How does one navigate through the uncharted waters of life after divorce? Allow yourself to create and embrace a brighter happier life… the life that you’ve imagined!
- Re-energize your job skills/career. Take courses if need be to sharpen your existing skills. Do what you have a strong interest in, or even better, a job that you have a passion for!
- Think "outside the box" when considering new relationships, friendships and neighborhoods to move to. Reinvent yourself! Try something new. Make certain the “new” is emotionally healthy for you…not destructive.
- Become an obsessive accountant of your personal finances. Know where every penny goes. There’s a lot of online information and free financial counseling available through a multitude of companies to help you with your finances and financial planning for your future.
- Lean on those you trust and make time to maintain your most important family relationships & friendships.
- Don't hold a perpetual "pity party" for yourself. Allow yourself to feel your emotions, but then move on quickly from the negative ones.
- You are your children’s most important role model. Be mindful of this in all that you do or say, particularly to your ex-spouse in the presence of your children.
- Try new hobbies, go back to school or volunteer for a charity you are interested in. Actively seek to broaden your world and experiences. Reevaluate how you spend your time and seek activities that give you joy and a sense of satisfaction. Don’t allow past routine to restrain you.
- Maintain certain traditions for the sake of the children, but also purposefully create new ones.
- Attend worship services regularly, even if you feel like God isn't being fair.
- Take care of your body: eat properly & exercise regularly.
“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old but on building the new.” - Socrates
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