The Three “C’s” of Parenting. Cop – Coach – Consultant
Nurturing a child to make good independent decisions for themselves is a goal most parents have for their child.
The Three C’s of parenting serve as a guide for this process.
Cop -
When a child is young, there are “absolutes” that cannot be compromised. i.e. a young child must be told “No” to running into the street. “No!” is such a frequently used command for a young child and many times quite necessary. However, as soon as a child begins to have some reasoning skills (about 2 ½ yrs old depending on the child) it’s important to give a child choices so they appreciate their ability to make decisions for themselves.
Coach -
A parent should be functioning as a coach by the time a child starts middle school (about 12 yrs old) and the should have the ability to make sound decisions at this time. This does not mean you stop parenting and offering input, but the ability to make sound decisions should be instilled by this age.
At this phase a child should learn/be encouraged that to wrestle with competing points of view is legitimate and factors into good decision making.
Consultant -
This is when your child is making independent decisions but coming to you for your thoughts and advise. Wait until your child asks for your opinion unless your input would make a significant difference in the outcome.
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